Comments on: What intelligences do you possess? http://www.datinggoddess.com/what-intelligences-do-you-possess/ Dating-over-40 advice by the Dating Goddess™ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 15:48:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Susan http://www.datinggoddess.com/what-intelligences-do-you-possess/comment-page-1/#comment-61540 Susan Thu, 08 Jul 2010 16:34:08 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=4002#comment-61540 I don't think Gardner's theory of multiple intelligences translates well to activities such as dancing. For example, a highly kinesthetic man such as an ex-college football player may not care for dancing. I don't put a lot of stock in mutual activities as a basis of a relationship because they often are the weak glue that hold two incompatible people together...for a while. I'm sometimes annoyed at the activity matches that match.com sends me: "Like you, he loves dogs and cooking!" So what? He's also a fundamental Christian conservative and I'm a moderate agnostic. What were they thinking? Too superficial. I would personally avoid anyone too skewed in any direction. I'm basically logical, but someone too highly mathematical (and often musical as well) may be eccentric to an annoying degree. Serious artists may be eccentric and egomaniacal as well as the very serious musician. A highly extroverted social butterfly often seems shallow to me and the "naturalist" who wants to camp/hunt/fish every weekend is not for me either. The theory of personality typing and matching is much more appealing to me and I haven't read any blog entry about it although you have been a member of eharmony and chemistry. If your potential mate doesn't really get you at a fundamental level, then no amount of mutual activity will compensate for that. You will just bring out the worst in each other. I'm an NT Rational and looking for another NT or an NF idealist. I find the i(N)tuition vs. (S)ensing the most important factor. I was married to an SJ Guardian type for over 20 years and he never got me. Half the time, he didn't even understand what I was trying to say. I'm a big picture person and he's a fact masticator and the attraction and love we felt for one another (plus all the mutual interests) wasn't enough to keep us from driving each other crazy. Thinking and judging styles could probably be loosely correlated with intelligence styles. I'm looking for logical and intuitive, a man who gets excited about the big picture and ideas, and who is adventurous (maybe scuba dive with me?) and unconventional without being eccentric. Liking books, music, art, and firms is a big plus because that's something we can talk about and share ideas. Then there is the whole issue of good character, similar values - and I prefer culturally similar because statistics show that two people who are culturally similar have a much better chance of a good, lasting relationship There is a lot to be said for mutual experience. I haven't made any real lists about my potential mate other than this post. I know that I will know when I find him. I don’t think Gardner’s theory of multiple intelligences translates well to activities such as dancing. For example, a highly kinesthetic man such as an ex-college football player may not care for dancing. I don’t put a lot of stock in mutual activities as a basis of a relationship because they often are the weak glue that hold two incompatible people together…for a while. I’m sometimes annoyed at the activity matches that match.com sends me: “Like you, he loves dogs and cooking!” So what? He’s also a fundamental Christian conservative and I’m a moderate agnostic. What were they thinking? Too superficial.

I would personally avoid anyone too skewed in any direction. I’m basically logical, but someone too highly mathematical (and often musical as well) may be eccentric to an annoying degree. Serious artists may be eccentric and egomaniacal as well as the very serious musician. A highly extroverted social butterfly often seems shallow to me and the “naturalist” who wants to camp/hunt/fish every weekend is not for me either.

The theory of personality typing and matching is much more appealing to me and I haven’t read any blog entry about it although you have been a member of eharmony and chemistry. If your potential mate doesn’t really get you at a fundamental level, then no amount of mutual activity will compensate for that. You will just bring out the worst in each other. I’m an NT Rational and looking for another NT or an NF idealist. I find the i(N)tuition vs. (S)ensing the most important factor. I was married to an SJ Guardian type for over 20 years and he never got me. Half the time, he didn’t even understand what I was trying to say. I’m a big picture person and he’s a fact masticator and the attraction and love we felt for one another (plus all the mutual interests) wasn’t enough to keep us from driving each other crazy.

Thinking and judging styles could probably be loosely correlated with intelligence styles. I’m looking for logical and intuitive, a man who gets excited about the big picture and ideas, and who is adventurous (maybe scuba dive with me?) and unconventional without being eccentric. Liking books, music, art, and firms is a big plus because that’s something we can talk about and share ideas.

Then there is the whole issue of good character, similar values – and I prefer culturally similar because statistics show that two people who are culturally similar have a much better chance of a good, lasting relationship There is a lot to be said for mutual experience.

I haven’t made any real lists about my potential mate other than this post. I know that I will know when I find him.

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