Saturday, the first day of my professional association’s conference this weekend, a married gal pal introduced me to a colleague of hers. He was tall and good looking. We only said hello as we scurried to our sessions.
I had reserved a table for 10 for Tuesday night’s gala and invited her to be my guest. She said she’d promised to sit with him since he didn’t know many people. I said to bring him along, as I had a well-positioned table and other fun guests.
He stopped me Sunday to thank me for inviting him to my table. He told me his name again and I said, “No need to reintroduce yourself. I always remember handsome men’s names.” He said, “I’ll have to hang out with you more.” We laughed and parted.
At the gala dinner he looked particularly smashing in his tux. But he was sitting two people away from me so I couldn’t really chat with him. I did get a sense of his class and depth in our full-table discussions — and learned he was unattached. I wanted to get to know him more, so devised a system that wouldn’t make it quite so blatant.
Since I’d assigned the seats alternating men and women, after the entree was cleared, I announced we would be doing a “man swap.” Everyone looked at me quizzically. I said, “For us to get to know more people, each gentleman will take his napkin and water glass and move four seats to his left so he has a new woman on each side.” They were delighted.
I’m afraid I nearly ignored the man on my right, as Mr. Handsome was on my left. We chatted and laughed easily. But all too soon the entertainment began. We whispered comments throughout and had a good time.
We’ll see what evolves. He didn’t ask for my card but he knows how to find me in the association directory. My friend said he told her the next day how much he enjoyed meeting me. If he doesn’t make any further contact, oh well. I got to spend some time enjoying a handsome, articulate, intelligent, funny man’s company. If he does follow up, we’ll see where it goes.
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DG was interviewed in an article titled “Sex After 50: Getting Back in the Saddle Returning to Intimacy After a Divorce, Death of Spouse, Can Be Awkward and Joyous” at ABCnews.com. (Look for the quote at the bottom of page 2.)