Comments on: The “pound-dog” syndrome in dating http://www.datinggoddess.com/the-pound-dog-syndrome/ Thu, 08 Jan 2009 21:51:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: David Yoho http://www.datinggoddess.com/the-pound-dog-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-107 David Yoho Mon, 01 Jan 2007 18:58:01 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=42#comment-107 From our friend Mary Pusateri: Don't ever date a man with a cat unless you also have cats and then, reconsider anyway. From our friend Mary Pusateri: Don’t ever date a man with a cat unless you also have cats and then, reconsider anyway.

]]> By: Gatti http://www.datinggoddess.com/the-pound-dog-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-106 Gatti Mon, 01 Jan 2007 15:47:00 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=42#comment-106 Interesting deal breakers, Elena. Gives me some food for future dating thought. Interesting deal breakers, Elena. Gives me some food for future dating thought.

]]> By: Elena http://www.datinggoddess.com/the-pound-dog-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-105 Elena Sun, 31 Dec 2006 15:29:39 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=42#comment-105 Does anyone remember the episode of Seinfeld where Elaine fall in deep lust with Jerry's moving man? She broke things off, despite the intense mutual attraction, when she found out that he was pro-life. With Elaine being pro-choice and Mr. Moving Man being pro-life, they both knew that sooner or later their differing views on abortion would become a wedge between them and so they broke up. You are right when you say that couples with polar opposite world views may have agreed to disagree or have decided not to discuss those topics. I would add another factor...perhaps they don´t believe that staunchly in whatever their publicly-visible world view is and identify/connect more deeply with their partner on some other point. I think when you see happy couples who on the surface appear to have differing world views, like Democrat James Carville and Republican Mary Matlin, I think that under the surface their world views are more in sync than a casual observer would think. For example, maybe what is most important to Carville and Matlin is being politically connected and plugged in to the American political establishment and their political party affiliation is just a means to an end. (If anyone saw/heard how sour grapes and obnoxious Carville sounded after the recent mid-terms elections, you'll know what I mean. His party won big time and yet he was griping about what a lousy job Howard Dean had done. Sounds like a man more concerned with being seen as a power player than with being a democrat.) But I digress. I think having similar or compatible world views builds a foundation for a more emotionally rewarding and long-lasting partnership. Potential deal breakers for me are usually based on socio-political and religious points and/or hypocrisy. For example, anyone who tells me how to be spiritual or tries to proselytize is not boyfriend material for me. Also, anyone who supports the war in Iraq or tells me that I'm unpatriotic or anti-American because I don't support the war is also off my list. Sorry, can't arround that. Another deal breaker are guys who live in the past and frame their present and future around what they were/had/achieved in the past. Does anyone remember the episode of Seinfeld where Elaine fall in deep lust with Jerry’s moving man? She broke things off, despite the intense mutual attraction, when she found out that he was pro-life. With Elaine being pro-choice and Mr. Moving Man being pro-life, they both knew that sooner or later their differing views on abortion would become a wedge between them and so they broke up.

You are right when you say that couples with polar opposite world views may have agreed to disagree or have decided not to discuss those topics. I would add another factor…perhaps they don´t believe that staunchly in whatever their publicly-visible world view is and identify/connect more deeply with their partner on some other point. I think when you see happy couples who on the surface appear to have differing world views, like Democrat James Carville and Republican Mary Matlin, I think that under the surface their world views are more in sync than a casual observer would think. For example, maybe what is most important to Carville and Matlin is being politically connected and plugged in to the American political establishment and their political party affiliation is just a means to an end. (If anyone saw/heard how sour grapes and obnoxious Carville sounded after the recent mid-terms elections, you’ll know what I mean. His party won big time and yet he was griping about what a lousy job Howard Dean had done. Sounds like a man more concerned with being seen as a power player than with being a democrat.)

But I digress. I think having similar or compatible world views builds a foundation for a more emotionally rewarding and long-lasting partnership. Potential deal breakers for me are usually based on socio-political and religious points and/or hypocrisy. For example, anyone who tells me how to be spiritual or tries to proselytize is not boyfriend material for me. Also, anyone who supports the war in Iraq or tells me that I’m unpatriotic or anti-American because I don’t support the war is also off my list. Sorry, can’t arround that. Another deal breaker are guys who live in the past and frame their present and future around what they were/had/achieved in the past.

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