Comments on: The first post-divorce dance http://www.datinggoddess.com/the-first-post-divorce-dance/ Dating-over-40 advice by the Dating Goddess™ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 15:48:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Frumpalicious http://www.datinggoddess.com/the-first-post-divorce-dance/comment-page-1/#comment-26065 Frumpalicious Sun, 13 Sep 2009 17:07:22 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3031#comment-26065 I remember the first dance after being married for 18 years then divorced. The guy was trying hard to seduce me, and since my ex rarely said a kind word to me, hearing this stranger tell me I was beautiful was intoxicating. At first. Then it became down right scary. I fled to my car, keys shaking and zoomed out of the bar parking lot. I saw my first dance partner standing there, with a dumbfounded look on his face. I shook and cried all the way home. It took me a while to get used to it all. Now, it's like brushing teeth! I remember the first dance after being married for 18 years then divorced. The guy was trying hard to seduce me, and since my ex rarely said a kind word to me, hearing this stranger tell me I was beautiful was intoxicating. At first. Then it became down right scary. I fled to my car, keys shaking and zoomed out of the bar parking lot. I saw my first dance partner standing there, with a dumbfounded look on his face. I shook and cried all the way home. It took me a while to get used to it all. Now, it’s like brushing teeth!

]]> By: Kay Kelison http://www.datinggoddess.com/the-first-post-divorce-dance/comment-page-1/#comment-24278 Kay Kelison Wed, 05 Aug 2009 02:20:17 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3031#comment-24278 An awesome blog, glad I came across it. Thanks - Kay An awesome blog, glad I came across it. Thanks – Kay

]]> By: Seductress http://www.datinggoddess.com/the-first-post-divorce-dance/comment-page-1/#comment-24187 Seductress Mon, 03 Aug 2009 14:27:47 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3031#comment-24187 Oh yes, the firsts. You're right, you never know when they will hit you in a sad, sentimental or humorous way. Don't be too hard on yourself. You had to deal with the emotions of it being a 'first' and learning and new and difficult dance. Following a man on the dancefloor can be especially difficult and near impossible when he is not a good leader. I danced with a man one time who was such an incredible dance partner in that he 'led' so well, I could not have missed a step if I wanted to. It was a dance I did not know yet he swung me to and fro, this way and that so effortlessly that I laughed with delight. I felt like a great dancer and I didn't even know what I was doing! Not very many men can lead that way which is why being in a long term relationship where you learn each other's signals and movements can be just as satisfying and wonderful. And why dancing with a stranger can be so horrifying! Oh yes, the firsts. You’re right, you never know when they will hit you in a sad, sentimental or humorous way.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. You had to deal with the emotions of it being a ‘first’ and learning and new and difficult dance.

Following a man on the dancefloor can be especially difficult and near impossible when he is not a good leader. I danced with a man one time who was such an incredible dance partner in that he ‘led’ so well, I could not have missed a step if I wanted to.
It was a dance I did not know yet he swung me to and fro, this way and that so effortlessly that I laughed with delight. I felt like a great dancer and I didn’t even know what I was doing!
Not very many men can lead that way which is why being in a long term relationship where you learn each other’s signals and movements can be just as satisfying and wonderful.

And why dancing with a stranger can be so horrifying!

]]> By: RA Butters http://www.datinggoddess.com/the-first-post-divorce-dance/comment-page-1/#comment-24095 RA Butters Fri, 31 Jul 2009 23:53:00 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3031#comment-24095 You oughta get a load of the "firsts" after becoming a widow. Talk about feeling the loss of your companion. And those firsts keep coming up, surprising you .... literally years later, you think you've been through every "first" and then one pops up, and there you are dealing with the pain all over again. Trying to stay present in now without comparing it to then is the only way through them. You oughta get a load of the “firsts” after becoming a widow. Talk about feeling the loss of your companion. And those firsts keep coming up, surprising you …. literally years later, you think you’ve been through every “first” and then one pops up, and there you are dealing with the pain all over again. Trying to stay present in now without comparing it to then is the only way through them.

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