Likewise, as per this thread title, I think a lot of men simply are not interested in dating long-term or actually trying to find “the one”. A couple guys from my past and I would have gotten along quite well long-term, but they simply were not ready to settle down. I think if they were, that I might have been the “one”. Timing is everything and if you can look at it that way, you don’t feel so bad about not being the “chosen one” at any given moment in time.

Wow, can I relate to this piece! Remember me? I went on a dating/penpal site just looking for laughs? Well, I met a certain special someone online, we’ve been e mailing and IMing back and forth for the past 2 weeks and are planning to meet up for the first time in the very near future. I am excited and nervous at the same time, what if we hit it off? What if we don’t? As he lives several hours away from me, it could present a problem. I guess I’ll just have to wait and see what happens…

Best wishes from bookyone

She and I live an hour apart — not that far, but too far for easy commuting. She doesn’t want to live in my city (she’s lived here before); I don’t want to live in hers (I’ve lived there before). We own our residences, and neither is big enough for both of us. Real estate prices have grown to the extent there’s a big question even if we sold both our places — which we don’t want to do — whether we could afford to buy a place in this geographical area big enough for both of us.

Logistical, financial, emotional — all of these are big factors. Meanwhile, we live our lives, together and separate at the same time.