Tag: midlife dating

  • Keeping it 100

    The phrase “keeping it 100” comes from “keeping it 100% real,” meaning being 100% honest. It’s shorthand for no BS, don’t tell me what you think I want to hear, tell me the unvarnished truth. Don’t hold back. I decided to try this with a man while we were exploring going from pals to more. […]

  • What’s Your “Need for Affiliation”?

    Agal pal shared with me the concept of people having different needs for affiliation — how much “people contact” they need. As you would guess, some have a very low need for affiliation — someone like the Unabomber who is content to live like a hermit with human contact only a few times a year, […]

  • 10 Tips for Successful Dating Over 40

    You’ve been single for a while. You would like to have a special man in your life. But how? Women reentering the dating scene after a long absence need to first examine if they are ready to date again. After all, not only is there the possibility of being swept off your feet by a […]

  • Long-Distance Dating Pros and Cons

    Some people set no distance requirements on potential suitors. One Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 reader shared she was romanced by a guy half way around the world for over two years! (They never met and he went poof one day.) Other people have ridiculously short distance requirements. Some men list 10 miles as […]

  • Is he emotionally abusive?

    She said he has given her a 2-week probation to decide if he wanted to stay or go.

  • When your ex dies

    My ex learned he had cancer 2 years ago. Since we didn’t keep in touch, I learned of it a year ago. He did semi-weekly podcasts for a few dozen friends to update them on his health. I listened to the previous 100 podcasts before reaching out via email. He said he was thrilled to […]

  • How much mind space does he take?

    When I’m smitten, or even in the beginning of a budding relationship, I think about the guy a lot. “I wonder how his day is going. Should I text him? “I should ask if he wants to come over for dinner Friday.” “I need to ask him why his marriage broke up.” “I think I’ll […]

  • Right man; wrong continent

    He was not classically good looking. He had a pronounced nose and craggy face etched from decades of intense work. But his entrancing blue eyes made everything else fade away. He stood straight so his fit 57-year-old body seemed decades younger. And when he looked at you, it felt like he really saw you. He […]

  • When certainty is a bad thing in dating

    Both genders say confidence is one of the most appealing attributes in a sweetie. However, there is a thin line between confidence and arrogance. Certainty is part of both. Here’s an example of when certainty turned unappealing.

  • The woo dance

    Wooing can be exhilarating, fun, and exciting. It’s nice to be the recipient of a man’s attention and affection. It’s especially nice when he’s good at it, but not so good it seems practiced. I’ve been the recipient of good woos and not so good ones. The latter wooers seem clumsy, perhaps out of nervousness […]

  • Cruisin’ for love

    I’m on an 11-day cruise. It’s not a singles’ cruise. Am I here looking for love?