I dated a sweet man who grew up in an African village. He came to the US at age 19 to go to school. I loved hearing his stories of growing up in his village, living in mud huts, bathing in the nearby river, gathering water from a pond, making fire from sticks and moss,…
Tag: boomer dating
“You Do You”
It’s commonly said that women try to change their man into someone more to their ideal. Men, however, are afraid women will change, as they like what they have. Not that a man can’t wish a woman was a better cook, was more punctual, neater, or had other habits he liked. But (generally) he won’t…
10 Tips for Successful Dating Over 40
You’ve been single for a while. You would like to have a special man in your life. But how? Women reentering the dating scene after a long absence need to first examine if they are ready to date again. After all, not only is there the possibility of being swept off your feet by a…
Long-Distance Dating Pros and Cons
Some people set no distance requirements on potential suitors. One Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 reader shared she was romanced by a guy half way around the world for over two years! (They never met and he went poof one day.) Other people have ridiculously short distance requirements. Some men list 10 miles as…
“Are You Man Enough To Be My Man?”
This can be a common thought for powerful, successful, midlife dating women. It was expressed by Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 reader Diamond in a question to me: I’ve been in business my whole life. A friend’s mother shared this advice just prior to my running off to meet what I thought…
Is he emotionally abusive?
She said he has given her a 2-week probation to decide if he wanted to stay or go.
How much mind space does he take?
When I’m smitten, or even in the beginning of a budding relationship, I think about the guy a lot. “I wonder how his day is going. Should I text him? “I should ask if he wants to come over for dinner Friday.” “I need to ask him why his marriage broke up.” “I think I’ll…
Right man; wrong continent
He was not classically good looking. He had a pronounced nose and craggy face etched from decades of intense work. But his entrancing blue eyes made everything else fade away. He stood straight so his fit 57-year-old body seemed decades younger. And when he looked at you, it felt like he really saw you. He…
When certainty is a bad thing in dating
Both genders say confidence is one of the most appealing attributes in a sweetie. However, there is a thin line between confidence and arrogance. Certainty is part of both. Here’s an example of when certainty turned unappealing.
The woo dance
Wooing can be exhilarating, fun, and exciting. It’s nice to be the recipient of a man’s attention and affection. It’s especially nice when he’s good at it, but not so good it seems practiced. I’ve been the recipient of good woos and not so good ones. The latter wooers seem clumsy, perhaps out of nervousness…
Cruisin’ for love
I’m on an 11-day cruise. It’s not a singles’ cruise. Am I here looking for love?