Comments on: Step up or step aside http://www.datinggoddess.com/step-up-or-step-aside/ Dating over 40 advice by the Dating Goddess™, who dated 101 men after her 20-year marriage ended. Wed, 28 Jul 2010 22:49:54 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: mwsharon http://www.datinggoddess.com/step-up-or-step-aside/comment-page-1/#comment-3050 mwsharon Fri, 11 Jul 2008 03:23:27 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1327#comment-3050 I should frame this and hang it on the wall. You speak the truth - we need to take care of ourselves first. This has often been hard for me but when I do take care of myself first, things seem to come together even if it means an emotionally unavailable and immature man who thinks we can survive on the crumbs he throws eats some dust in the process. nysharon is right about the egos, self-centeredness and stubbornness as well. These are the guys we have to push out of the way and ignore when they come back (because they usually do). I've been in the position where I wanted to believe what they said was true, gave them another chance and have just been punked again and again. My new personal rule is "never re-tread more than once" as someone deserves another chance, but multiple times - NO! I should frame this and hang it on the wall. You speak the truth – we need to take care of ourselves first. This has often been hard for me but when I do take care of myself first, things seem to come together even if it means an emotionally unavailable and immature man who thinks we can survive on the crumbs he throws eats some dust in the process.

nysharon is right about the egos, self-centeredness and stubbornness as well. These are the guys we have to push out of the way and ignore when they come back (because they usually do).

I’ve been in the position where I wanted to believe what they said was true, gave them another chance and have just been punked again and again. My new personal rule is “never re-tread more than once” as someone deserves another chance, but multiple times – NO!

]]> By: nysharon http://www.datinggoddess.com/step-up-or-step-aside/comment-page-1/#comment-3043 nysharon Thu, 10 Jul 2008 02:27:11 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1327#comment-3043 This is why I left my husband. Our counselor said to him, think of it as if you have a customer in you business and they come in one day and request an item that is way out in the warehouse. Would you go back and get it to please them? Or will you send them away. He wasn't ready to step up. Sometimes men's egos, self centerness, and stuborness gets in the way of having something so special--they are blind to it. She helped me to see that I wasn't too needy, but deserving. thanks for reminding me. This is why I left my husband. Our counselor said to him, think of it as if you have a customer in you business and they come in one day and request an item that is way out in the warehouse. Would you go back and get it to please them? Or will you send them away. He wasn’t ready to step up. Sometimes men’s egos, self centerness, and stuborness gets in the way of having something so special–they are blind to it. She helped me to see that I wasn’t too needy, but deserving.
thanks for reminding me.

]]> By: bookyone http://www.datinggoddess.com/step-up-or-step-aside/comment-page-1/#comment-3026 bookyone Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:39:25 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1327#comment-3026 Hi DG, Excellent assessment! I agree 110%! Hugs from bookyone :) Hi DG,

Excellent assessment! I agree 110%!

Hugs from bookyone :)

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