Comments on: Clues a guy is just looking for a booty call

By: Hunter

Hunter — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 06:50:41 +0000

…..lots and, lots of men don’t know, that, most of the time, they don’t have to lie to a woman…..

By: Lulu

Lulu — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 07:21:25 +0000

I agree with Paulette, women become uncertain of themselves after returning to dating later in life, they are often even more vulnerable than when younger. I feel an almost pathetic level of gratitude that everyone contributes their experiences and theories here, and I’m finding it very useful for shedding light on previous dating mis-haps as well as illuminating current experiences. It has also made me question my own behaviour, my own expectations and optimisms. I think I may be becoming the realist I always should have been except that constant romanticism got in the way.

By: Paulette

Paulette — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 20:45:50 +0000

Bruce, I wanted to thank you revealing this information. I do agree with a lot of these comments on the website. It’s nice to know I wasn’t misleading the signs when I had met a guy in 2004. My first & second date he just did want a “booty call”. He continually steers the conversation towards something sexual or least suggestive, excessive touching. I really got turn off. I loss interest, and haven’t wanted to interact around him the last 3 years. I’ve read everyone comment on the website. Thank you for very much. Everyone comments have been really helpful, and I no longer have uncertainies.

By: Martha Yandell

Martha Yandell — Mon, 21 May 2007 22:34:39 +0000

It’s just amazing that boys never outgrow their immature sexual tendencies. When you mentioned having a bowling ball at home, and he said he had two balls of his own that is like the most immature thing. I am so sure that you didn’t have slut on tattooed on your forehead, but I am sure that he did. What a double standard, but things are changing somewhat because women talk about slut men too! These days with all the diseases hanging around no one wants a slut male or female.

To the person that thinks she has paid her dues with dating the guy that said he had two balls, I hope you are right! Good luck!

To the person that is going to wait around until marriage to have sex again, you will definitely weed the non-serious ones out. You have set your price high, and I am sure your are worth it. Hang in there.

By: Marina

Marina — Thu, 22 Mar 2007 22:57:36 +0000

My first date after my divorce was most definately a booty-call. When he made brash comments about the motel next door to the restaurant where we had dinner I got uncomfortable. And then the yuck factor really kicked in when the subject of going bowling came up. I mentioned I had my own bowling ball, he replied, yeah, and he had two balls.

Good to know that I’m still attractive after being married for several years, but I don’t recall having the word slut tattooed on my forhead either! But if it’s true that the first one after a divorce is never a keeper, then I just paid my dues! Hopefully the next one will have more to offer.

By: bookyone

bookyone — Tue, 23 Jan 2007 20:05:20 +0000

OK, call me old fashioned, but after being burned way too many times over the years by the immature booty call boys who aren’t interested in a serious long term relationship, I have decided to wait until marriage for my next sexual encounter. No, I’m not particularly religious and I’m not a prude, I’m just older and wiser than I was in years past and tired of playing games. IMHO, waiting separates the good guys (i.e. the commitment oriented, marriage minded mature men) from the game playing boys of all ages.

Best wishes from bookyone

By: Catherine

Catherine — Wed, 25 Oct 2006 04:38:55 +0000

It’s nice to know I wasn’t misreading the “signs” when a recent first date did almost everything listed above, he DID just want a “booty call”. While flattering, the “yuck” factor was pretty high, and I wondered if “EASY” was tatooed across my face when I wasn’t looking. Honestly guys, telling a woman your favorite sexual positions on the first date won’t get you a second date!

By: Male Call

Male Call — Wed, 04 Oct 2006 21:55:08 +0000

Bruce, you’re officially out of the guy union…how can you even consider divulging the secret that guys … want … sex?! And to think we had the gals all fooled ….

OK, we won’t kick you out, but you do get a five-game suspension.

By: Bruce Daley

Bruce Daley — Mon, 02 Oct 2006 21:02:08 +0000

You are right Liz. The fact most men and women expect sex is what makes dating different from other forms of social interaction. As the proud recipient of some booty calls (i.e. let’s get together after I go out with my Latin girlfriends…I’ll be there at midnight) you are also right about the difference between booty calls and dates where you attempt to get to know the other person better. Thanks for showing me the path.

By: Liz

Liz — Sat, 30 Sep 2006 15:02:59 +0000

Bruce,

While it’s probably safe to say that most men–and most women–want and expect sex as part of a relationship or even outside of one, I think that booty call implies that sex is ALL that one wants out of the relationship or at least out of that particular date/encounter with that person. Obviously sometimes we meet somebody we are hot for, but still desire more.