Comments on: Review of “All Men Are Jerks” http://www.datinggoddess.com/review-of-all-men-are-jerks/ Thu, 08 Jan 2009 21:46:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Diane http://www.datinggoddess.com/review-of-all-men-are-jerks/comment-page-1/#comment-3900 Diane Tue, 14 Oct 2008 03:08:06 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1314#comment-3900 I totally agree that we (women) help create jerks by putting up with a man's lies. Why do we do that? Perhaps because we do not like confrontation, and it's easier to believe what a man says, particularly when he's looking at us with puppy dog eyes and holding out flowers or candy? Ladies, this is the easy way out! It does us no good in the long run. If a man is saying one thing, but doing another we should judge him on his actions. Actions speak louder than words! We all know this is true. Think about it. Would we accept this kind of behavior from our children? If they constantly lied and then tried to wheedle their way out of trouble, would we stand for it? I'm betting most good parents wouldn't. It teaches the children that they can get away with deception and bad behavior without cultivating the kind of behavior we really want to see in them. So why should we accept this from a grown man? Stand firm, and do not allow him to make excuses for poor behavior! We will all be better off for it. I totally agree that we (women) help create jerks by putting up with a man’s lies. Why do we do that? Perhaps because we do not like confrontation, and it’s easier to believe what a man says, particularly when he’s looking at us with puppy dog eyes and holding out flowers or candy? Ladies, this is the easy way out! It does us no good in the long run. If a man is saying one thing, but doing another we should judge him on his actions. Actions speak louder than words! We all know this is true.

Think about it. Would we accept this kind of behavior from our children? If they constantly lied and then tried to wheedle their way out of trouble, would we stand for it? I’m betting most good parents wouldn’t. It teaches the children that they can get away with deception and bad behavior without cultivating the kind of behavior we really want to see in them. So why should we accept this from a grown man? Stand firm, and do not allow him to make excuses for poor behavior! We will all be better off for it.

]]> By: Angela http://www.datinggoddess.com/review-of-all-men-are-jerks/comment-page-1/#comment-2937 Angela Fri, 20 Jun 2008 16:15:29 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1314#comment-2937 I read the book and loved it. I am getting a divorce after 11 years of being married to a narcissistic, manipulative man and am having to work on my self esteem. I was brought up to be a people pleaser and have usually been "too nice", so I end up with jerks most of the time. So even though many of these things may be common sense, it's good to have someone teach you of the ways of a lot of men. And to be reminded that I am a wonderful woman who deserves a good man. We teach people how to treat us. If we put up with bad behaviour, we continue to get treated bad. I am learning to not be so vulnerable. I read the book and loved it. I am getting a divorce after 11 years of being married to a narcissistic, manipulative man and am having to work on my self esteem. I was brought up to be a people pleaser and have usually been “too nice”, so I end up with jerks most of the time. So even though many of these things may be common sense, it’s good to have someone teach you of the ways of a lot of men. And to be reminded that I am a wonderful woman who deserves a good man. We teach people how to treat us. If we put up with bad behaviour, we continue to get treated bad. I am learning to not be so vulnerable.

]]> By: Loving Annie http://www.datinggoddess.com/review-of-all-men-are-jerks/comment-page-1/#comment-2916 Loving Annie Thu, 12 Jun 2008 15:20:16 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1314#comment-2916 Never hurts to read what reinforces common sense - don't put up with sh**, not from anyone ! Never hurts to read what reinforces common sense - don’t put up with sh**, not from anyone !

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