Comments on: Rejection is protection

By: Ellen

Ellen — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 04:14:47 +0000

Ah, sweetie, we need to trust our gut, our instincts, that voice inside that is so wise. I think we do the one we cancel a favor, for sure, for letting go before they get attached. And I always am grateful when someone shows me an obvious reason so soon not to continue, saves me so much time and anguish. There is no need to apologize or rationalize our decisions. I fear some of us may hang on to someone obviously not right for us, out of fear of loneliness or being alone, but it’s brave to keep our eyes and ears open to seeing the person realistically and taking action quickly. There’s always another one around the corner.

xo Ellen
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By: Dating Goddess

Dating Goddess — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 20:25:31 +0000

Bookyone: Thanks for sharing this touching prose. It home big time!

By: bookyone

bookyone — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 19:49:59 +0000

Hi DG,

I, too, have been in your shoes, but your heartfelt words inspired me to pen the following verse for all of us who’ve been there and moved on to bigger and better things:

I Heard Your No – poem by bookyone

I heard your no and
Died inside,
Let’s just be friends
I cried and cried.

I saw your body
Turn away,
I longed to hold you
Make you stay.

I reminisced on
Times we’d shared,
How could you leave
Without a care?

I told myself
I’d call your bluff, and
Waited but
You ne’er did come.

Slowly, then,
It dawned on me,
We’d not a chance
Nor love between.

The way you cast
Me off did sting, and
Yet I realized
One thing.

I now was free
To wake again,
To ope’ my eyes and
Find my prince.

I heard your no and
Died inside, if
Twas a blessing
In disguise.

BIG hugs from bookyone

By: cheryl

cheryl — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 15:34:55 +0000

Fear of rejection is what keeps me from giving myself to someone else 100%. I always hold back just a little bit. I’m not sure if this is a good, i.e healthy solution, but it’s what I do.

By: Loving Annie

Loving Annie — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 11:37:46 +0000

It is protection, it’s just hard for the heart to know that sometimes… If only we could see WHY it isn’t a fit, so c;learly that it would be easy to let go. Not taking it personally means we are string enough to know that if we aren’t wanted the way we want to be wanted – then we don’t want him.

By: Jack

Jack — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 10:03:30 +0000

I was dating a great woman, recently divorced, whom I could have envisioned marrying at some point. She would periodically make nasty comments to me, about me, out of the blue. She would feel terrible about them, apologize profusely etc. After about eight months she broke up with me and I was pretty upset about it but it was for the best. She had so much anger about her failed marriage and was taking it out on me. She was protecting me in a way by breaking up with me. I would have put up with a lot but I shouldn’t have put myself in that position. The fog has slowly lifted and I’m better off but its a tough lesson.