Comments on: Pros and cons of expectations http://www.datinggoddess.com/pros-and-cons-of-expectations/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:55:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Mike http://www.datinggoddess.com/pros-and-cons-of-expectations/#comment-2700 Mike Fri, 28 Mar 2008 18:33:14 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1266#comment-2700 I think you were clear, but I do agree with everyone else. When your disappointed you need to let him know. The mind reading thing just doesn't work. I think you were clear, but I do agree with everyone else. When your disappointed you need to let him know. The mind reading thing just doesn’t work.

]]> By: Meari http://www.datinggoddess.com/pros-and-cons-of-expectations/#comment-2688 Meari Tue, 25 Mar 2008 04:02:14 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1266#comment-2688 The way I viewed it... You didn't have concrete plans, so more than likely in his eyes he didn't think anything of planning his day and doing the things he needed to get done. If you were disappointed, you should've communicated it to him immediately after receiving that text message from him. Three weeks really isn't all that long. It's not surprisng to me that he'd flake like that. The way I viewed it… You didn’t have concrete plans, so more than likely in his eyes he didn’t think anything of planning his day and doing the things he needed to get done. If you were disappointed, you should’ve communicated it to him immediately after receiving that text message from him. Three weeks really isn’t all that long. It’s not surprisng to me that he’d flake like that.

]]> By: Another Ellen http://www.datinggoddess.com/pros-and-cons-of-expectations/#comment-2686 Another Ellen Mon, 24 Mar 2008 16:35:17 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1266#comment-2686 There's a saying I've heard: Expectations are premeditated disappointments. But does that mean you just go with the flow and be satisfied with whatever? Not necessarily. I think there's a difference between expectations and wishes or wants. You can *want* something -- even work towards it -- but not get pissed off and resentful if you don't get it, particularly when the thing you want has to do with another human being's behavior. I guess I"'m into "reality therapy" these days -- I can make an effort towards what I want, but if it's clearly not happening, instead of being angry, maybe I have to either revise my want, look elsewhere, or accept that it's going to be a long process. There’s a saying I’ve heard: Expectations are premeditated disappointments. But does that mean you just go with the flow and be satisfied with whatever? Not necessarily. I think there’s a difference between expectations and wishes or wants. You can *want* something — even work towards it — but not get pissed off and resentful if you don’t get it, particularly when the thing you want has to do with another human being’s behavior.

I guess I”‘m into “reality therapy” these days — I can make an effort towards what I want, but if it’s clearly not happening, instead of being angry, maybe I have to either revise my want, look elsewhere, or accept that it’s going to be a long process.

]]> By: Single Mom Seeking http://www.datinggoddess.com/pros-and-cons-of-expectations/#comment-2683 Single Mom Seeking Mon, 24 Mar 2008 06:13:19 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1266#comment-2683 I agree: I think you were pretty darn clear. I'm curious how he replied when you communicated your disappointment. I agree: I think you were pretty darn clear.

I’m curious how he replied when you communicated your disappointment.

]]> By: nysharon http://www.datinggoddess.com/pros-and-cons-of-expectations/#comment-2681 nysharon Sun, 23 Mar 2008 15:33:57 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1266#comment-2681 Stop--, "I said I looked forward to seeing him later today." Hello->I think you were clear enough. The problem lies when you didn't text him back that you were disappointed. Or he may be just playing games--not cool. Stop–, “I said I looked forward to seeing him later today.” Hello->I think you were clear enough. The problem lies when you didn’t text him back that you were disappointed.
Or he may be just playing games–not cool.

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