Can you be wacko on dates?

February 11, 2015

We all have stories of some date gone awry because your companion acted strangely. In fact, we love to regale our friends with these stories whenever mid-life dating enters the conversation. We never see that we might have been the one someone is telling a story about. How could we be the focus of a […]

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Dating as sport

January 29, 2015

I spent some time recently with a mid-50s, never-married, long-time friend. He’s been in relationships lasting a few years, but never found someone he wanted to be with long term. But he does love women and he loves to date. He had 3 dates last weekend with different women. He said he liked all of […]

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Dating musings from Thailand

January 23, 2015

I just returned from 3 weeks in Thailand and Laos. My dating life never seems far from my mind. Here are some examples of a few of the activities that reminded me of my dating life.

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Missing expressing a part of yourself

December 31, 2014

Do you ever feel sad at missing expressing a part of who you are? Maybe you love to paint but either don’t have the time or space to do it now. Or maybe you love to swim but you live too far from a pool to do it regularly. Or maybe you are exhilarated by […]

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“I’m attracted to you” does not mean “I’ll call you”

December 25, 2014

Midlife men have said and done many things that caused me to think, “What??? The examples and my lessons fill Embracing Midlife Men: Insights Into Curious Behaviors. Just when I think I have a handle on what goes on in men’s heads, I’m confronted with a new curiosity.

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How sex is like hot cocoa

December 19, 2014

Good hot cocoa and good sex can both be delicious and satisfying. When each is good, it puts a smile on your face. You feel warm and happy afterwards. You often want more. When shared with someone you care about, they are fun and a great way to spend some time and you don’t say […]

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New guy

December 16, 2014

The beginning of getting to know someone is both energizing and frightening. The energy comes from enjoying the conversation and fantasizing about what could be. The frightening part comes from remembering past first encounters that didn’t result in a second. If you found the man appealing and wanted to see him again but he felt […]

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Scratching his head

November 30, 2014

A friend’s 35-year-old son accompanied his father and step-mother to visit me recently. I’d gotten to know him as a young man and he was in town so they wanted us all to catch up. He’s a nice guy, but he has some “issues” most women would have a hard time getting around. As he […]

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Are you too clingy?

August 14, 2014

“Clingy” has different definitions to different people. Some like their space, while others like to be continually touching when together. Others like to show their affection often and in public and some are more reserved.

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What’s appropriate first-date attire?

August 3, 2014

After a few good phone conversations, we agreed to meet for afternoon coffee. It was a beautiful perfect-weather day, so I decided to wear a cute summer outfit.  I spent an hour taking a shower, dressing and getting my cute on. Arriving early, I staked out an outdoor table at the coffee shop. He called […]

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“Somebody That I Used To Know”

July 28, 2014

I love that song by Gotye. I think it encapsulates the lingering hurt many of us feel after an unpleasant breakup. When I first heard the song, I immediately thought the title perfectly reflected my feelings about my ex. I didn’t have the resentment expressed in the lyrics, but the title seemed to fit. However, […]

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