Can dating be like “The Voice”?

January 5, 2013

Part of the allure of the TV singing competition “The Voice” is that the contestants are judged initially on only the quality of their singing. I can see the wisdom of this, as one’s appearance and movements affect how we respond to them and it could sway how one votes for a performer.

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We are never, ever getting back together

January 1, 2013

Thank you Taylor Swift, for a lyric that perfectly reflects my sentiment. Especially now. Why?

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Did Santa forget your gift?

December 25, 2012

As a kid, were you ever disappointed when Santa didn’t deliver a coveted gift? I was. I would pout and sometimes even cry from disappointment, not being interested in the socks and clothing gifts that were utilitarian but not something I’d yearned for. I know I should have been grateful to have anything, but a [...]

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“I’ll be the best you ever had”

December 17, 2012

As much as I love John Legend, his “Tonight” lyric is indicative of men who over promise and under deliver. If a man brags about his prowess in kissing or sex, you can bet you will be disappointed.

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Wing woman

December 11, 2012

My married BFF has patiently listened to my dating ups and downs for many years. At her suggestion, we decided to attend a well-known church’s fundraiser comprised of an evening of foot-stomping, hip-wiggling music and finger food. She said, “Our kind of men will be there.” Since she is married, I assumed she meant successful, [...]

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Fool me twice, shame on me

December 8, 2012

I’m channeling Britney, with an “oops, I did it again” experience this week.

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Do you respect his thinking?

December 2, 2012

There are many reasons we are attracted to someone or not. Often, it takes a while to experience their behaviors before we decide if we like who they are or not. And it’s fascinating to see how some overlook actions that would be deal breakers to others.

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Are you open to an open relationship?

November 15, 2012

Unfamiliar with the term? Think of being in a primary relationship, but with the ability to have sex with others. Openly. With your sweetheart’s knowledge and permission. One of my acquaintances has this kind of relationship. She and her husband have permission from the other to “see” others. They refer to their relationship as polyamorous. [...]

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Beginner’s luck

November 2, 2012

A pal who ended a decade-long relationship a year ago has fallen for a woman he met a few weeks ago. It’s the first person he’s dated after his relationship ended. I’m fighting the urge to run screaming into traffic yelling, “It’s not fair!”

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I want to marry a concierge

October 12, 2012

Dinner was high atop the Istanbul Intercontinental Hotel in the City Lights Restaurant. We met at 8:15 so the sun had set and the lights on the Anatolian (Asian) side of the city were tinkling. The ships scurried below us and the Bosporus Bridge lights were putting on their show by changing color every few [...]

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Topless in Turkey

October 1, 2012

I thought that would get your attention! Europeans seem to have much different feelings about body image than Americans do. (I realize I’m generalizing here.) People of all ages, shapes and sizes seem more carefree at the beach and other places where one lets it all hang out. I’m wondering how that affects their dating, [...]

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“The lad doth text too much”

September 19, 2012

With apologies to Shakespeare, I was reminded of his line in Hamlet when a potential suitor recently showered me — or more like drowned me — in texts.

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The altered state of “in love”

September 10, 2012

Brain scans show that the same regions of the brain are activated after taking cocaine as when subjects were shown pictures of someone they said they were in love with. When I’ve been in love, I’ve relished the feeling: the excitement when hearing his voice, getting his text or email, even just looking at his [...]

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Being in fond

August 25, 2012

A good-looking, successful, kind, generous, attentive, single man is wooing my single friend. He tells her how much he adores her and wants to be with her. He tells her it’s OK to take her time; he doesn’t want to pressure her. And yet she’s uncomfortable. Why?

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Does he have an addiction?

August 20, 2012

In the last few months I’ve heard two stories of midlife women learning the man they were dating had an addiction.

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“It’s not my job”

August 8, 2012

It seems that when I gather with one or more single gal pals, the subject soon turns to dating. Today’s gathering was no different. This conversation centered around a pal who’d recently lost 100 pounds and felt she was ready to re-enter the dating scene. She had new-found confidence and was anxious to find love. [...]

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Are you too tolerant?

August 2, 2012

Generally, I believe tolerance is good. You are open to new ideas and perspectives. You’re not rigid and adamant that your way is the only way. (Note: As I get older, I find I’m more and more intolerant of intolerance!) Since I’m generally pro-tolerance, why would I suggest that too much tolerance in dating can [...]

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