Too much information?

October 8, 2013

As a generality, men tend to keep relationship details to themselves. Their friends and family may have to probe and prod to even discover they have started dating someone. Guys keep that info to themselves. Only under rare circumstances would they share intimate details with their buddies. Women, however, tend to be the opposite. It’s […]

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Are you an interchangeable cog?

September 24, 2013

Most midlife singles have a vision of what they’d like their lives to be like in 5, 10 or 20 years. They imagine adventure trips abroad, luxury cruises, quietly enjoying their homes, or domestic RV trips. They may (or may not) have the resources to enjoy their dreams. There’s only one thing missing.

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Slip-sliding away

September 16, 2013

Some men just go poof — stopping any communication with you without a word. Others break up — in person, by phone, via email, or more and more commonly by text. They send a clear message they are moving on. But there’s another way men exit from a dating relationship.

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The disclosure

September 11, 2013

My friend has been dating a new guy for a month and it was going well. He’s emotionally mature, good looking, financially stable, fun and treats her well. They had two activities planned for the weekend near his home, an hour away from her. He invited her to stay overnight so she didn’t have to […]

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How men and nectarines are similar

September 1, 2013

At the farmers market, a woman asked the vendor how to tell when the nectarines were sweet and ripe. “The ones with blemishes and freckles are the sweetest. The prettiest ones aren’t as good.” I looked at them both and said, “Just like men.”

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Sexual continuous improvement

August 18, 2013

You’ve been dating a special guy for a while and have had several sexual romps. But you find yourself less than satisfied, even though you’ve giving lots of feedback on what’s working for you when you’re in the act. Rather than declaring that you’re sexually incompatible, you decide to see if you can discuss adjustments […]

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When is he your beau?

August 10, 2013

When you first start seeing someone, what do you call it? Hanging out? “Seeing each other?” Dating? If you’re just going to coffee, on hikes, or to the movies, is that really dating? Especially if one or both of you are meeting other people?

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The sexcation

July 23, 2013

When you first start being sexual with a new sweetie, you likely have sex nearly every time you see each other. Depending on your mutual libido, that could be several times a day! In the beginning, you may have sleep overs a few times a week. But what if you go on a trip together […]

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Is he willing to do the work?

July 9, 2013

Any mature person knows that to keep a relationship humming, it takes some work. Even if you get along fabulously, usually there are a few hiccups that need negotiating. My ex and I started going to a counselor a few years into our relationship as I wanted a safe place we could work out any […]

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The Sex Talk

June 24, 2013

When we were younger, we might have been more nonchalant about sex. We progressed — often rapidly — from passionate kissing to petting to sex. Sometimes in a matter of minutes. Rarely — if ever — would we discuss beforehand our needs and desires. During sex we may have expressed what we wanted or liked, […]

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Making his universe

June 15, 2013

I’ve become friendly with my local street fruit vendor because he is friendly and has an easy smile. Despite our limited facility with each other’s language — my Spanish stopped in high school — we make an effort to communicate. When I wanted to buy only one basket of strawberries instead of 3, I struggled […]

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