What’s appropriate first-date attire?

August 3, 2014

After a few good phone conversations, we agreed to meet for afternoon coffee. It was a beautiful perfect-weather day, so I decided to wear a cute summer outfit.  I spent an hour taking a shower, dressing and getting my cute on. Arriving early, I staked out an outdoor table at the coffee shop. He called […]

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“Somebody That I Used To Know”

July 28, 2014

I love that song by Gotye. I think it encapsulates the lingering hurt many of us feel after an unpleasant breakup. When I first heard the song, I immediately thought the title perfectly reflected my feelings about my ex. I didn’t have the resentment expressed in the lyrics, but the title seemed to fit. However, […]

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How needy are you?

July 18, 2014

You may have heard there’s a new smartphone app named “Yo.” It allows the sender to send a message: Yo. And the responder can respond with “Yo.” That’s it. That’s all it does. Wonder why you’d want such an app?

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“Keep in touch”

July 6, 2014

When one ends a first date, sometimes it’s awkward. You’re not sure if he enjoyed himself as much as you did. You’re waiting for a clue he did. Sometimes it’s in what he says as you’re saying goodbye. “I’d love to see you again,” is a sure sign. “I had a great time and would […]

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Have we become grumpy old daters?

May 28, 2014

As people age, some become happier and more care free, choosing to look at each day as a blessing, and not to sweat small inconveniences. Others seem to focus more on pointing out any inconvenience to those who they think caused it — or anyone within earshot. I’d been told that during my search for […]

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Travel partner with benefits

April 23, 2014

My post-divorce dating has not yielded a beau who liked — or had the means — to travel. I love to travel so have scratched my itch by traveling with or meeting up with friends. That doesn’t mean I haven’t been invited to travel with men, but unfortunately, they’ve been men I haven’t yet met […]

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Moving from friends to more

February 26, 2014

Have you ever had a guy friend-crush? A guy pal who you’d like to be more? But you haven’t flirted or made your interest known because he might already have a wife or girlfriend? Or maybe you’ve been too afraid of ruining the good friendship you have if a romance doesn’t work out?

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Emotional cheating

February 17, 2014

Much has been written about how Facebook has helped end many marriages because people rekindle relationships with old flames. They begin romancing each other through emails, texts and calls until their allegiance to their spouse withers and they have become etionally attached to their new-old flame. Sometimes the damage is done without their actually seeing […]

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Would you date a man with no libido?

January 26, 2014

A pal shared a story of his best friend, Mel, who had some recent health challenges which resulted in him having zero libido. Not just during the treatment of his health problem, but afterward. Prior to this circumstance, Mel’s sex drive had been high. He’s been married to his current wife for about 10 years […]

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Are you longing to end the quest too soon?

January 10, 2014

              Most of the people I talk to about dating want to find “The One” quickly and get the dating roller coaster ride over. They don’t enjoy the process of meeting new people and being disappointed when there isn’t mutual attraction. Or if there is, it doesn’t last long.

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What does “I’m not ready to be exclusive” mean to you?

December 31, 2013

The other day I was helping a newly dating pal navigate dating waters. He’s been dating about 6 months after the breakup of a long-term relationship and was multidating. He’s gone out with one woman multiple times in the last 6 weeks — we’ll call her Amy — and continues to see other women including […]

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