Dating as networking

December 15, 2013

We typically date with a goal: to find someone with mutual attraction. Some of us also want love and a long-term, committed relationship. Some want marriage. Some want just a fling. After dating a number of people and we don’t have the outcome we want, it can be frustrating. However, if we shift our perspective, […]

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Instant boyfriend

November 25, 2013

I’ve noticed a trend. I don’t know if it’s just me or if it is common. When I’ve met someone online and we’ve exchanged some emails and phone calls, when we meet there’s a sense of familiarity. The meeting seems like a formality, just verifying the other isn’t bizarre looking or socially inept and is […]

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Is your prattling turning off your dates?

November 18, 2013

Blathering. Babbling. Rambling. You hog the air time. Instead of it being a dialog, it’s a monologue. You go on and on, barely taking a breath, not allowing the other to interject anything but “uh huh.” You don’t ask a question. You lose the opportunity to get to know a potentially great mate. You lose […]

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Dumped by someone below your standards

October 20, 2013

When you first meet someone and are deciding whether to see each other again, whether you want to or not, you consciously or unconsciously size each other up. In addition to deciding if you’re attracted to the other, you assess if you are in the same league as the other. This league can be physical […]

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Too much information?

October 8, 2013

As a generality, men tend to keep relationship details to themselves. Their friends and family may have to probe and prod to even discover they have started dating someone. Guys keep that info to themselves. Only under rare circumstances would they share intimate details with their buddies. Women, however, tend to be the opposite. It’s […]

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Are you an interchangeable cog?

September 24, 2013

Most midlife singles have a vision of what they’d like their lives to be like in 5, 10 or 20 years. They imagine adventure trips abroad, luxury cruises, quietly enjoying their homes, or domestic RV trips. They may (or may not) have the resources to enjoy their dreams. There’s only one thing missing.

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Slip-sliding away

September 16, 2013

Some men just go poof — stopping any communication with you without a word. Others break up — in person, by phone, via email, or more and more commonly by text. They send a clear message they are moving on. But there’s another way men exit from a dating relationship.

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The disclosure

September 11, 2013

My friend has been dating a new guy for a month and it was going well. He’s emotionally mature, good looking, financially stable, fun and treats her well. They had two activities planned for the weekend near his home, an hour away from her. He invited her to stay overnight so she didn’t have to […]

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How men and nectarines are similar

September 1, 2013

At the farmers market, a woman asked the vendor how to tell when the nectarines were sweet and ripe. “The ones with blemishes and freckles are the sweetest. The prettiest ones aren’t as good.” I looked at them both and said, “Just like men.”

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Sexual continuous improvement

August 18, 2013

You’ve been dating a special guy for a while and have had several sexual romps. But you find yourself less than satisfied, even though you’ve giving lots of feedback on what’s working for you when you’re in the act. Rather than declaring that you’re sexually incompatible, you decide to see if you can discuss adjustments […]

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When is he your beau?

August 10, 2013

When you first start seeing someone, what do you call it? Hanging out? “Seeing each other?” Dating? If you’re just going to coffee, on hikes, or to the movies, is that really dating? Especially if one or both of you are meeting other people?

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