Comments on: It’s moving day! http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 18:15:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 » Blog Archive » How is your guy imprinted on you? http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/#comment-3710 Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 » Blog Archive » How is your guy imprinted on you? Sat, 20 Sep 2008 07:03:29 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=196#comment-3710 [...] “It’s moving day!” I encourage everyone who’s experienced a breakup to get rid of any physical objects [...] [...] “It’s moving day!” I encourage everyone who’s experienced a breakup to get rid of any physical objects [...]

]]> By: Happy Dating Independence Day « Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/#comment-405 Happy Dating Independence Day « Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 Wed, 04 Jul 2007 07:01:53 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=196#comment-405 [...] “It’s moving day” we discussed how to let go of old hurts so your heart is free to love again. Your dating [...] [...] “It’s moving day” we discussed how to let go of old hurts so your heart is free to love again. Your dating [...]

]]> By: Aggressively Single http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/#comment-397 Aggressively Single Fri, 02 Mar 2007 16:22:36 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=196#comment-397 I do feel very fortunate, Mitsy. I dated 2 of them for 9 weeks each (the magic make-or-break time frame), broke up because my needs weren't being met (I was a little too much of a princess, honestly), and am now seeing both again, part friends part let's see what happens when the pressure is off. 2 of the others I am still friends with, would consider dating again in the future. I feel some of my good luck was a reward for having the strength to end my marriage and begin building a new life. Who knows.... I do feel very fortunate, Mitsy. I dated 2 of them for 9 weeks each (the magic make-or-break time frame), broke up because my needs weren’t being met (I was a little too much of a princess, honestly), and am now seeing both again, part friends part let’s see what happens when the pressure is off. 2 of the others I am still friends with, would consider dating again in the future. I feel some of my good luck was a reward for having the strength to end my marriage and begin building a new life. Who knows….

]]> By: Mitsy http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/#comment-398 Mitsy Fri, 02 Mar 2007 14:14:38 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=196#comment-398 Wow, AS, I have never encountered that many good guys from online. Nope, I can't say that any put themselves out as much as some of your guys did. So, what happened with them all? Did any lead to 3rd or 4th dates??? Wow, AS, I have never encountered that many good guys from online. Nope, I can’t say that any put themselves out as much as some of your guys did. So, what happened with them all? Did any lead to 3rd or 4th dates???

]]> By: Aggressively Single http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/#comment-399 Aggressively Single Fri, 02 Mar 2007 03:59:37 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=196#comment-399 Love this post!!! We tend to share our struggles and disappointments here, nice to focus back on the positive. I was just thinking how wonderful some of the men I've met have been, and how blown away I've been by their caring and concern. One, while waiting for me to finish getting ready for our date, of his own accord got a snow shovel out of my garage and proceeded to shovel my front walk for me. Another, on our 2nd date, brought over some special light bulbs he thought would look good in one of my light fixtures. How sweet was that! Another took me out to every single night club in our little town just so I could see what they're all like, and insisted on paying every cover charge even though we only stayed a few minutes. And he really doesn't like nightclubs! Another insisted on cooking me dinner at my house on my first day on a new job (even though he doesn't like to cook!) and packed up enough leftovers to last me through the week, because he knew I'd be tired. This same guy now won't let me pay for ANYTHING, because he knows things are tight right now. Another wonderful man used my sink, left abruptly and came back moments later with tools to fix the faucet. These are such guy things to do, and they were all so sweet to take the time. I've been overwhelmed with how nice people can be. There are a lot of great people out there, I say let's forget and move on from the few bad ones and meet more great ones! Love this post!!! We tend to share our struggles and disappointments here, nice to focus back on the positive. I was just thinking how wonderful some of the men I’ve met have been, and how blown away I’ve been by their caring and concern.

One, while waiting for me to finish getting ready for our date, of his own accord got a snow shovel out of my garage and proceeded to shovel my front walk for me. Another, on our 2nd date, brought over some special light bulbs he thought would look good in one of my light fixtures. How sweet was that! Another took me out to every single night club in our little town just so I could see what they’re all like, and insisted on paying every cover charge even though we only stayed a few minutes. And he really doesn’t like nightclubs! Another insisted on cooking me dinner at my house on my first day on a new job (even though he doesn’t like to cook!) and packed up enough leftovers to last me through the week, because he knew I’d be tired. This same guy now won’t let me pay for ANYTHING, because he knows things are tight right now. Another wonderful man used my sink, left abruptly and came back moments later with tools to fix the faucet. These are such guy things to do, and they were all so sweet to take the time. I’ve been overwhelmed with how nice people can be.

There are a lot of great people out there, I say let’s forget and move on from the few bad ones and meet more great ones!

]]> By: Kat Wilder http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/#comment-400 Kat Wilder Thu, 01 Mar 2007 04:27:23 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=196#comment-400 DG, it is very important to move on, and I love what Doug says, and it's something we so often forget — that he or she was once someone we loved, and even though it ended differently than we thought it would at the beginning, it's nice to acknowledge what "we" had for however brief a time. When I'm on a date with a man who bad-mouths a former wife or lover, I am very, very cautious with him. Why? Because he's looking to put all the blame on the other, and not taking responsibility for his part in it. Doesn't it take two to tango, er, create a bad dynamic? I enjoy your columns and viewpoint a lot. ;-) DG, it is very important to move on, and I love what Doug says, and it’s something we so often forget — that he or she was once someone we loved, and even though it ended differently than we thought it would at the beginning, it’s nice to acknowledge what “we” had for however brief a time.

When I’m on a date with a man who bad-mouths a former wife or lover, I am very, very cautious with him. Why? Because he’s looking to put all the blame on the other, and not taking responsibility for his part in it. Doesn’t it take two to tango, er, create a bad dynamic?

I enjoy your columns and viewpoint a lot. ;-)

]]> By: Elizabeth http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/#comment-401 Elizabeth Thu, 01 Mar 2007 02:58:38 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=196#comment-401 I say Amen. When it is time to let go we let go ... and though often we need a kick in the pants to let go of the final chord ... we should all be relieved to know that when we are READY to move on we will ... there are no rules that are right for everyone. DG's advice is true ... when we haven't let go of past relationship hurts we unwittingly or not carry them into a new relationship ... and that new relationship will be colored and skewed by the past unresolved hurts. But you know what? So what? Maybe we need to go through a few more failed attempts to get to the point where we see for ourselves how our own baggage is hindering our ability to find joy, connection and yes, love. Everything happens in its own time ... in its own way ... for its own reasons. Sometimes, we just need to relax into the journey and realize bumps and bruises are there for a reason ... and they do all heal ... in time. I say Amen. When it is time to let go we let go … and though often we need a kick in the pants to let go of the final chord … we should all be relieved to know that when we are READY to move on we will … there are no rules that are right for everyone. DG’s advice is true … when we haven’t let go of past relationship hurts we unwittingly or not carry them into a new relationship … and that new relationship will be colored and skewed by the past unresolved hurts. But you know what? So what? Maybe we need to go through a few more failed attempts to get to the point where we see for ourselves how our own baggage is hindering our ability to find joy, connection and yes, love. Everything happens in its own time … in its own way … for its own reasons. Sometimes, we just need to relax into the journey and realize bumps and bruises are there for a reason … and they do all heal … in time.

]]> By: Doug http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/#comment-402 Doug Wed, 28 Feb 2007 23:56:36 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=196#comment-402 I agree - once they're gone, get their stuff in a box and get them out of sight. Leave the negativity behind. However, I usually find that, after the decompression period, I like to put their pics back up. They were all important people in our lives at one time and those memories are often something that's worth holding on to. I'm all for 'moving day' but it's not a bad thing to remember that we once had a reason to spend time with someone--and that reason, for a time, was love. I agree - once they’re gone, get their stuff in a box and get them out of sight. Leave the negativity behind. However, I usually find that, after the decompression period, I like to put their pics back up. They were all important people in our lives at one time and those memories are often something that’s worth holding on to. I’m all for ‘moving day’ but it’s not a bad thing to remember that we once had a reason to spend time with someone–and that reason, for a time, was love.

]]> By: trixie67 http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/#comment-403 trixie67 Wed, 28 Feb 2007 22:37:12 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=196#comment-403 great idea. I had a market stall on the weekend, and despite Dick Cheney's visit to the suburb causing traffic chaos, one goal was to purge the belongings of ex boyfriends, ex evil flatmates & all the unwanted things. buyers relished the idea of purchasing these items, like they were helping out too. great idea. I had a market stall on the weekend, and despite Dick Cheney’s visit to the suburb causing traffic chaos, one goal was to purge the belongings of ex boyfriends, ex evil flatmates & all the unwanted things.

buyers relished the idea of purchasing these items, like they were helping out too.

]]> By: Gatti http://www.datinggoddess.com/its-moving-day/#comment-404 Gatti Wed, 28 Feb 2007 20:37:47 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=196#comment-404 Good for you, Sharon! We are all much too fine to allow ourselves to be treated poorly like that. Good for you, Sharon! We are all much too fine to allow ourselves to be treated poorly like that.

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