Comments on: It was bound to happen http://www.datinggoddess.com/it-was-bound-to-happen/ Dating-over-40 advice by the Dating Goddess™ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:14:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Almita http://www.datinggoddess.com/it-was-bound-to-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-79796 Almita Sun, 24 Oct 2010 18:17:07 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3637#comment-79796 I was on eHarmony for six months. During that time, I initiated contact with one of my "matches." The man wasn't interested in me, and he "closed" me out. Some six months later, I encountered the man when I went for a job interview. He was the high level executive that I had to interview with! I felt so odd knowing that he had rejected me on eHarmony. I am still waiting to find out if I got the job. I can only hope that his professional evaluation of me is more positive than his personal evaluation. I was on eHarmony for six months. During that time, I initiated contact with one of my “matches.” The man wasn’t interested in me, and he “closed” me out. Some six months later, I encountered the man when I went for a job interview. He was the high level executive that I had to interview with! I felt so odd knowing that he had rejected me on eHarmony. I am still waiting to find out if I got the job. I can only hope that his professional evaluation of me is more positive than his personal evaluation.

]]> By: Richard http://www.datinggoddess.com/it-was-bound-to-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-37610 Richard Fri, 19 Mar 2010 23:47:41 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3637#comment-37610 When I read your title, I thought "Oh No! DG has a ring and a date. What will happen to this site?". I have no experience to add. Sigh. Your post reminds me of the Pina Colada song (Escape). My first thought: "101, that's a lot of people." Then I thought: "If you only have to date 101 people to find the one, then 1% of the population is a match" - So much for the 1 in a million soul mate. I know, it is a little more selective than that (what percent make it to the date stage). Don't give up Amanda. 22 years of flipping Tails. You are bound to flip a Head soon. When I read your title, I thought “Oh No! DG has a ring and a date. What will happen to this site?”. I have no experience to add. Sigh. Your post reminds me of the Pina Colada song (Escape).

My first thought: “101, that’s a lot of people.” Then I thought: “If you only have to date 101 people to find the one, then 1% of the population is a match” – So much for the 1 in a million soul mate. I know, it is a little more selective than that (what percent make it to the date stage).

Don’t give up Amanda. 22 years of flipping Tails. You are bound to flip a Head soon.

]]> By: Amanda Goldsmith http://www.datinggoddess.com/it-was-bound-to-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-37320 Amanda Goldsmith Thu, 18 Mar 2010 11:43:19 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3637#comment-37320 Hiya So the secret is to keep dating.... " Ive been dating since im 22, im now 43 and I am fed up " I read all your blog, think its great, buy all the stuff about living a full life, being happy and feeling good and the Prince then appears... I believe in this - sometimes I just loose hope. Thanks for the great work you do. Amanda Hiya

So the secret is to keep dating…. ” Ive been dating since im 22, im now 43 and I am fed up ”

I read all your blog, think its great, buy all the stuff about living a full life, being happy and feeling good and the Prince then appears… I believe in this – sometimes I just loose hope.

Thanks for the great work you do.

Amanda

]]> By: Laine http://www.datinggoddess.com/it-was-bound-to-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-37207 Laine Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:40:14 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3637#comment-37207 This has happened to me. I have been contacted repeatedly by this one guy on a dating site over several years. He does not appeal to me in the slightest, and I have always sent a polite "not interested" reply, but he persists. Every so often he contact me again. This guy is either really resilient and oblivious to repeated rejection, or else he has the memory of a goldfish. So imagine my surprise, when running around my cities running track one morning, I see him running toward me. As he approached he was looking at the ground..never looked up !! This got me to thinking about how we can miss out on opportunities in real life..right in front of us!! Food for thought :) This has happened to me. I have been contacted repeatedly by this one guy on a dating site over several years. He does not appeal to me in the slightest, and I have always sent a polite “not interested” reply, but he persists. Every so often he contact me again. This guy is either really resilient and oblivious to repeated rejection, or else he has the memory of a goldfish.

So imagine my surprise, when running around my cities running track one morning, I see him running toward me. As he approached he was looking at the ground..never looked up !! This got me to thinking about how we can miss out on opportunities in real life..right in front of us!!

Food for thought :)

]]> By: Dating Goddess http://www.datinggoddess.com/it-was-bound-to-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-37177 Dating Goddess Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:53:54 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3637#comment-37177 Amanda: Not all of the 101 were just coffee dates. About half were, and the other half resulted in at least one more date. Some of these ended up being beaus. I've had two 5+ month relationships and many several-month relationships. The last 5-month one I felt was a keeper -- until he broke up with me by text! (I was delusional, which I have a propensity of being!) I'm not convinced there is only one person who is our match. How cruel would that be if your mate lived across continents and you had no way to reach him? I think there are many people who we can match with. I think the challenge is as we get older, we get a little pickier. We've created pretty darned good lives and so someone has to be pretty special to get us to want to change what we have going on. Amanda: Not all of the 101 were just coffee dates. About half were, and the other half resulted in at least one more date. Some of these ended up being beaus. I’ve had two 5+ month relationships and many several-month relationships. The last 5-month one I felt was a keeper — until he broke up with me by text! (I was delusional, which I have a propensity of being!)

I’m not convinced there is only one person who is our match. How cruel would that be if your mate lived across continents and you had no way to reach him? I think there are many people who we can match with. I think the challenge is as we get older, we get a little pickier. We’ve created pretty darned good lives and so someone has to be pretty special to get us to want to change what we have going on.

]]> By: Amanda Goldsmith http://www.datinggoddess.com/it-was-bound-to-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-37174 Amanda Goldsmith Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:41:09 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3637#comment-37174 Hiya Yep I guess it had to happen. I just have one burning question, 101 coffee dates and still no soul mate ? I wondered if there is only just the one single soul mate for us or we have several, would love to hear your views on this matter. Hiya

Yep I guess it had to happen. I just have one burning question, 101 coffee dates and still no soul mate ? I wondered if there is only just the one single soul mate for us or we have several, would love to hear your views on this matter.

]]> By: Sylvia http://www.datinggoddess.com/it-was-bound-to-happen/comment-page-1/#comment-37133 Sylvia Wed, 17 Mar 2010 12:13:19 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=3637#comment-37133 When i initial opened up a myspace account, i had a guy who frequently visited my page. He said he liked my writing. I never dated readers, but we talked one night on the phone and that was it. i was doing a workshop and my assistant was excited because she had invited this guy she'd met on myspace. This was a couple of years later and boom, you guessed it, it was him. At first i didn't recognize him until he opened up his mouth to speak. He knew who I was but I didn't say anything to the assistant. He was nice enough to me on the phone, but I just didn't connect with him. Needless to say, the assistant dated him for three months and then went on to someone she met on facebook. When i initial opened up a myspace account, i had a guy who frequently visited my page. He said he liked my writing. I never dated readers, but we talked one night on the phone and that was it.

i was doing a workshop and my assistant was excited because she had invited this guy she’d met on myspace. This was a couple of years later and boom, you guessed it, it was him.

At first i didn’t recognize him until he opened up his mouth to speak. He knew who I was but I didn’t say anything to the assistant.

He was nice enough to me on the phone, but I just didn’t connect with him. Needless to say, the assistant dated him for three months and then went on to someone she met on facebook.

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