Comments on: Is it persuasion, manipulation or enticement? http://www.datinggoddess.com/is-it-persuasion-manipulation-or-enticement/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 15:53:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: bookyone http://www.datinggoddess.com/is-it-persuasion-manipulation-or-enticement/#comment-2890 bookyone Sat, 07 Jun 2008 15:47:10 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1309#comment-2890 Hi DG, I agree 110% with Ellen on this; IMHO it's all in your perspective and WHY you're doing what you're doing or not, more than the specific act of doing something itself. If the motivation is sincere and genuine then, if it feels good, as Nike says, do it! It's only when the motives are less than honorable, or used as a relationship scorecard, so to speak, (something I ABHOR with a passion!) that the potential for manipulation, in the worst sense of the word, exists. Just my two cents... Hugs from bookyone :) Hi DG,

I agree 110% with Ellen on this; IMHO it’s all in your perspective and WHY you’re doing what you’re doing or not, more than the specific act of doing something itself. If the motivation is sincere and genuine then, if it feels good, as Nike says, do it! It’s only when the motives are less than honorable, or used as a relationship scorecard, so to speak, (something I ABHOR with a passion!) that the potential for manipulation, in the worst sense of the word, exists.

Just my two cents…

Hugs from bookyone :)

]]> By: nysharon http://www.datinggoddess.com/is-it-persuasion-manipulation-or-enticement/#comment-2887 nysharon Thu, 05 Jun 2008 11:32:59 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1309#comment-2887 its not manuipultion its called marriage. its not manuipultion its called marriage.

]]> By: Ellen http://www.datinggoddess.com/is-it-persuasion-manipulation-or-enticement/#comment-2886 Ellen Thu, 05 Jun 2008 00:01:33 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=1309#comment-2886 It’s all about motivation. If my motivation is to give pleasure or make someone happy, then that’s good. All relationships are really based on getting something we want. We use each other, that’s what’s it’s about. If we do it with good intentions, even if it’s to gain something for ourselves, that’s good. If our purpose is to harm, like making a guy take us to an expensive event when we know we’re not going to continue to date him, now that’s bad. Will our actions bring pleasure or pain? Will we each be better for it? Persuasion can be fun, enticement can be delicious, even manipulation can be a game that brings rewards and everyone benefits. It’s all about motivation. If my motivation is to give pleasure or make someone happy, then that’s good. All relationships are really based on getting something we want. We use each other, that’s what’s it’s about. If we do it with good intentions, even if it’s to gain something for ourselves, that’s good. If our purpose is to harm, like making a guy take us to an expensive event when we know we’re not going to continue to date him, now that’s bad. Will our actions bring pleasure or pain? Will we each be better for it? Persuasion can be fun, enticement can be delicious, even manipulation can be a game that brings rewards and everyone benefits.

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