Comments on: Guys: Need your help translating http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/ Thu, 20 Nov 2008 18:32:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: hunter http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/#comment-1154 hunter Sun, 02 Sep 2007 02:12:26 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=618#comment-1154 ....Rod, you are a nice guy,(look out, nice guys finish last) any other man would have asked her out, again, just because of her looks...... ….Rod,

you are a nice guy,(look out, nice guys finish last) any other man would have asked her out, again, just because of her looks……

]]> By: Rod http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/#comment-1153 Rod Sat, 01 Sep 2007 15:05:04 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=618#comment-1153 This has happened to me, from the guys perspective. Once met a woman who was VERY attractive, so much so that I nearly fell off my chair when she came round the corner. And we had a great time on our date, talked, laughed, shared, joked and things went rather famously actually... but, I decided not to see her again. Why? Because there was a moment, toward the end of our date, where she made a very tiny comment that sounded *exactly* like my ex. Not her fault. She was just being her. But in that split second I had a deep, visceral reconnection to something that I absolutely could not be close to ever again. I guess she was the unwitting victim of the ghost of my past and I never saw her again, despite her requests to do so. This has happened to me, from the guys perspective. Once met a woman who was VERY attractive, so much so that I nearly fell off my chair when she came round the corner. And we had a great time on our date, talked, laughed, shared, joked and things went rather famously actually… but, I decided not to see her again. Why? Because there was a moment, toward the end of our date, where she made a very tiny comment that sounded *exactly* like my ex. Not her fault. She was just being her. But in that split second I had a deep, visceral reconnection to something that I absolutely could not be close to ever again. I guess she was the unwitting victim of the ghost of my past and I never saw her again, despite her requests to do so.

]]> By: mhmpang http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/#comment-1162 mhmpang Fri, 31 Aug 2007 23:10:33 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=618#comment-1162 It seems like he likes you as a person, but doesn't want to commit. Maybe he isn't ready or you don't fit his ideal for a mate. If you would like to have a friendship with him, then continue on.. If not, then tell him "Thanks, I will call you. " Don't waste your time if you want a serious relationship with sombody who gives no sign that he wants the same. Many other fish in the sea.. THe way he said it was quite honest in my opinion. Don't dig deeper than what is there. I agree with you on the eHarmony portion, It took me over an hour to complete the assessment, but hey,, I found my fiancee that way.. And we wouldn't want it any other way. It seems like he likes you as a person, but doesn’t want to commit. Maybe he isn’t ready or you don’t fit his ideal for a mate. If you would like to have a friendship with him, then continue on.. If not, then tell him “Thanks, I will call you. ” Don’t waste your time if you want a serious relationship with sombody who gives no sign that he wants the same. Many other fish in the sea.. THe way he said it was quite honest in my opinion. Don’t dig deeper than what is there.

I agree with you on the eHarmony portion, It took me over an hour to complete the assessment, but hey,, I found my fiancee that way.. And we wouldn’t want it any other way.

]]> By: Dan http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/#comment-1165 Dan Fri, 31 Aug 2007 20:24:53 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=618#comment-1165 Don't know if this is true of other guys but, from my perspective, there are two aspects of the physical attractiveness of a woman. First is the structure and composition of the physical features of a woman - how well she's put together and maintained, to be somewhat crude. This aspect will cause a man to want to spend time with a woman but not necessarily make him want to get to know her. This would be the Paris Hilton type of attractiveness. Very pleasant to look at but God Forbid that I should have to carry on a conversation with her. If the woman has nothing but structure and composition to offer, that's all a man can respond to. If she has a personality that is attractive to a man, he will know it from the look in her eyes, her smile, her touch, the way she moves, the sound of her laugh, and from everything about her inner being that projects itself through her outward features. That's the second, and for me the more important, aspect of the physical attractiveness of a woman. It's possible that your date saw that aspect in you but that it reminded him (even subconsciously) of someone with whom a previous relationship didn't work. It's also possible that you're overanalysing this situation because you assume that all men act the same - supported by the second half of your post - and that means that what he said can't be all there is to it. If we don't all act the same then it's possible that what he said is all there is to it and if we do all act the same, what difference does it make what excuse he gave? Don’t know if this is true of other guys but, from my perspective, there are two aspects of the physical attractiveness of a woman. First is the structure and composition of the physical features of a woman - how well she’s put together and maintained, to be somewhat crude. This aspect will cause a man to want to spend time with a woman but not necessarily make him want to get to know her. This would be the Paris Hilton type of attractiveness. Very pleasant to look at but God Forbid that I should have to carry on a conversation with her. If the woman has nothing but structure and composition to offer, that’s all a man can respond to. If she has a personality that is attractive to a man, he will know it from the look in her eyes, her smile, her touch, the way she moves, the sound of her laugh, and from everything about her inner being that projects itself through her outward features. That’s the second, and for me the more important, aspect of the physical attractiveness of a woman. It’s possible that your date saw that aspect in you but that it reminded him (even subconsciously) of someone with whom a previous relationship didn’t work. It’s also possible that you’re overanalysing this situation because you assume that all men act the same - supported by the second half of your post - and that means that what he said can’t be all there is to it. If we don’t all act the same then it’s possible that what he said is all there is to it and if we do all act the same, what difference does it make what excuse he gave?

]]> By: Ellen http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/#comment-1156 Ellen Fri, 31 Aug 2007 16:04:44 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=618#comment-1156 Really, we'll NEVER know why this guy did this, never. Wasn't he that very overly sweet and nice guy that did everything right? A guy like that can't really tell the truth or be confrontative, so you'll never know, even if he tells you. Imagine falling for a guy like this? You'd never know what's really going on, since he can't face reality. My view is that it's a good thing that a guy shows us who he really is right away so we don't have to waste any more time on him. I'd go with "he's just not that into you" and not try to figure it out. You could get 1000 ideas or suggestions, but you'll never know what really happened. Never. Next! xo Ellen www.wonderfulonlinewomenLA.com Really, we’ll NEVER know why this guy did this, never. Wasn’t he that very overly sweet and nice guy that did everything right? A guy like that can’t really tell the truth or be confrontative, so you’ll never know, even if he tells you. Imagine falling for a guy like this? You’d never know what’s really going on, since he can’t face reality. My view is that it’s a good thing that a guy shows us who he really is right away so we don’t have to waste any more time on him. I’d go with “he’s just not that into you” and not try to figure it out. You could get 1000 ideas or suggestions, but you’ll never know what really happened. Never. Next!
xo Ellen
http://www.wonderfulonlinewomenLA.com

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/#comment-1163 singlemomseeking Fri, 31 Aug 2007 14:33:54 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=618#comment-1163 Oh my. Look what happens to us -- your readers -- when you write about your personal dating life. We're absolutely sucked in! I just want to encourage you to keep your head high. I appreciate what Jeff Mac said above: "As I always say, when a man gives mixed signals, always, always forget what he says, and listen to what he DOES." Indeed, move onto a worthier man. You deserve him. xo, Rachel http://www.singlemomseeking.com Oh my. Look what happens to us — your readers — when you write about your personal dating life. We’re absolutely sucked in! I just want to encourage you to keep your head high. I appreciate what Jeff Mac said above: “As I always say, when a man gives mixed signals, always, always forget what he says, and listen to what he DOES.”

Indeed, move onto a worthier man. You deserve him.

xo,
Rachel
http://www.singlemomseeking.com

]]> By: hunter http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/#comment-1155 hunter Fri, 31 Aug 2007 05:04:34 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=618#comment-1155 ...all right steve! Tell them, to to read the title of this blog!......hhhmmmhh.how funny!..... …all right steve! Tell them, to to read the title of this blog!……hhhmmmhh.how funny!…..

]]> By: Steve Mertz http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/#comment-1169 Steve Mertz Fri, 31 Aug 2007 03:27:47 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=618#comment-1169 Goddess, Why are all these women commenting-didn't they read that you wanted a guy's perspective :-) I'm in the camp with the folks who said he was not attracted to you and felt obligated/guilty/whatever -to say nice things so feelings would not be hurt. Move on and enjoy! Goddess, Why are all these women commenting-didn’t they read that you wanted a guy’s perspective :-) I’m in the camp with the folks who said he was not attracted to you and felt obligated/guilty/whatever -to say nice things so feelings would not be hurt. Move on and enjoy!

]]> By: PaxMan http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/#comment-1166 PaxMan Fri, 31 Aug 2007 01:15:34 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=618#comment-1166 The guy wasn't interested. Leave it alone. You go on HUNDREDS of dates, why are you obsessing about this one guy doesn't who isn't claiming himself to you in romantic prostration? He was trying to be nice. He sent you an nice response to your "I need to know if you like me" email. Go onto the next one. I am sure they are lining up. The guy wasn’t interested. Leave it alone. You go on HUNDREDS of dates, why are you obsessing about this one guy doesn’t who isn’t claiming himself to you in romantic prostration? He was trying to be nice. He sent you an nice response to your “I need to know if you like me” email. Go onto the next one. I am sure they are lining up.

]]> By: hunter http://www.datinggoddess.com/guys-need-your-help-translating/#comment-1174 hunter Fri, 31 Aug 2007 00:20:33 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=618#comment-1174 ...too bad he is saying, "keep your distance," too soon....they say both male and female anxiety level is very high the first 3 dates....... …too bad he is saying, “keep your distance,” too soon….they say both male and female anxiety level is very high the first 3 dates…….

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