Comments on: Does he fit in your world?

By: Dating Goddess

Dating Goddess — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 05:12:58 +0000

Hi Karen:

I call him King Charming for several reasons:

* In “Understanding the stage your guy is in” http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=653 I reviewed a book that described that mature, grounded men are in the “king” stage, which my guy is.

* A few months ago I dated a man I dubbed “Prince Considerate.” I think the “prince” moniker if for less mature men, although Prince Considerate is the same age as King Charming. I didn’t want to confuse the two.

* Frankly, Prince Charming is a bit cliche, so I try to avoid it.

By: Karen Smith

Karen Smith — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 04:41:28 +0000

I just came across your website through an RSS feed on yahoo. I was wondering how long you have been dating “King Charming” and why you call him that. I recently met a guy on yahoo personals who called himself “King Richard” My tag line was “looking for Prince Charming”. After a couple of days of chating online I dubbed him “King Charming”. I just thought it was wierd to see someone else use it! Thanks for a laugh.

By: caroline

caroline — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 16:12:13 +0000

i’m about to venture into dating a younger man for the 1st time.i have a son 1 yr older than him.i’m 60,he’s 38.his mother and i were childhood friends,whom i meet in july for the first time since i was 16.i will meet him soon as a lover.he don’t have a problem with age its me.younger men have always approched me all my life.and i have to admit its been hard to turn down their invitations.ive always liked younger men,but ended up married to a much older man.i’ve listen to my kids and let them voice there thoughts.at first my daughter didnot agree with my dateing a guy so young,my son was all for it maybe because he married a older woman.now that my daughter knows she can’t talk me out of it she s now trying to deal with it.by the way this guy is hot.i don’t believe i’ll back out alot of friends are betting on it.everone tells me i look like i’m 40.GOD as truley blessed me with youth in my older age.

By: bookyone

bookyone — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 09:51:25 +0000

Hi DG,

Great post! As I was reading this, I realized that I’ve never ever dated a guy who fit into my world even a teeny tiny bit, now how screwy is that? Either I really don’t know what I’m doing (true) or else in the past I wanted a relationship so badly that I took whoever came my way (true again) without seeing how he’d fit into my life as a whole.

No wonder I’ve decided to stay single; IMHO, better alone than a guest on Jerry Springer.

Hugs from bookyone

By: Allison

Allison — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 19:57:03 +0000

Yes, this is a dilemma. I always felt a little guilty for feeling this way about a guy who wasn’t ‘fitting in’ on a social or intellectual level. Felt somehow I was being judgmental. I try to mix my guys in with friends etc pretty early on…because it is important to see what happens and I’d rather find out early if he changes to from Beauty to Beast in that situation.

The other day I picked up a book called If The Buddha Dated. Great book BTW. It had a whole section talking about the best relationships are where the two are ‘equals’, spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, etc.

I think it meant that each can ‘hang’ in the other’s world with the respect of their partner. Not that they have to be strictly equal financially or whatever but that they can adapt to the other’s world.

That made alot of sense to me.

By: nysharon

nysharon — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 11:31:14 +0000

Agreed and you’re right, if I was hot for him it wouldn’t matter. I tried to over look that because I really did want to feel something. I am sticking to butterflies for now on. BTW: his birthday was the same as my ex’s. That was weird but not a deal breaker.:)

By: Dating Goddess

Dating Goddess — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 23:40:39 +0000

NYSharon:

The “out of my league” comment is a compliment — one generally just says something like, “How flattering.”

A man who can fix things is worth his weight in gold! But if you aren’t feeling it with him for other reasons, you’re not being snobby. If you were hot for him, I bet it would matter little what he did. I know some couples, like the aforementioned on in Sex and the City make it work — even when it’s real life, not a fictional show!

But it’s good that you see this relationship has run its course so you can release him to some other woman who will be enchanted by him.

By: nysharon

nysharon — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 11:48:43 +0000

Buying the new suit showed effort and that is what is endearing.
Your post is right on for me again, a little weird. The “bad speller” told me early on that his friends thought that I was out of his league. An awkward moment for me. How do you respond to that? We however, had a lot of actiives in common and children in the same age range and that made it OK. The truth is, I kept thinking I was being shallow, but your post defines it better. He is the maintance man in my building and repairs things and such. On occation the cleaner is sick and one day he empted my garbage can. Another awkward moment. I am aspiring to become management in the next year or so. This with the lack of besottedness it a no brainer.