Webster’s dictionary says “pursue” means: “seek to form a sexual relationship with (someone) in a persistent way.”
I explained in “Tales of woo” how some men’s definition of “pursue” seems skewed to me. Another example has occurred this week.
A few weeks ago a local man showed signs of interest. We emailed a few times, then I gave him my number and we had several long, interesting chats. The only problem was he was on a business trip and wouldn’t be returning until after I left for SE Asia. I suggested he download Skype so we could continue our voice chats.
While I was gone, there was no communication. No voice mails, no emails. And no Skype, so he didn’t follow through by downloading it.
The evening I was to return home, I got this email:
“Missing you bad; the conversation is invigorating and the woman is scintillating. I hope things are good for you there. Let’s talk soon.”
I responded that I would be home the next day and we could chat while I drove home from the airport, but it might be too late for him, so let me know. When I arrived home there was no voice mail so I called him. I got his voice mail so left a message. I’ve not heard a peep from him in almost a week since he sent the “Missing you bad” email.
What gives? Too busy to make contact? I don’t buy it. Found someone else? Maybe. Not that into me? Then why write an email like that?
I continue to scratch my head trying to understand why men do and say certain things, then don’t take any action. My cynical self thinks he’s juggling several women and I’m not at the top of his list. Or maybe he’s married.
Read more about men’s unexplainable behaviors in Embracing Midlife Men: Insights Into Curious Behaviors.