Comments on: Care of newbie daters http://www.datinggoddess.com/care-of-newbie-daters/ Dating-over-40 advice by the Dating Goddess™ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:14:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Victoria Fenner http://www.datinggoddess.com/care-of-newbie-daters/comment-page-1/#comment-2955 Victoria Fenner Sat, 28 Jun 2008 14:59:15 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=477#comment-2955 This post was so great .. compassion, wisdom .. you said some important things there. We are all fragile. It was so good that I mentioned it on my blog -- thanks for the wise words. This post was so great .. compassion, wisdom .. you said some important things there. We are all fragile.

It was so good that I mentioned it on my blog — thanks for the wise words.

]]> By: Mr Dating Services http://www.datinggoddess.com/care-of-newbie-daters/comment-page-1/#comment-865 Mr Dating Services Sat, 23 Jun 2007 10:11:43 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=477#comment-865 It can be difficult, but I still think the philosophy "your as young as you feel" holds true. Shaking off inhibitions can be very liberating as you get older and very attractive to the opposite sex. It can be difficult, but I still think the philosophy “your as young as you feel” holds true. Shaking off inhibitions can be very liberating as you get older and very attractive to the opposite sex.

]]> By: K http://www.datinggoddess.com/care-of-newbie-daters/comment-page-1/#comment-866 K Fri, 22 Jun 2007 15:23:47 +0000 http://www.datinggoddess.com/?p=477#comment-866 Being a widow of 4+ years I know it is tough for the other person to find things to talk about with regards to my marriage. A couple of hints.... don't be afraid that you are going to cause pain. Usually we have thought about SO many aspects of the death that there isn't anything you can bring up that we haven't thought about. It makes me more uncomfortable if someone pussyfoots around the subject. As for the widower of just one year...watch out... I have other friends that are widows and have read numerous books on the subject. They call the 2nd year the lonely year. It is very true. The shock has worn off after 1 year, the loneliness sets in during the 2nd year. The 3rd year you realize your life is your own and the decisions are your own, the 4th year...yee haw! Ready to live again. I'm sure this isn't true for everyone, but that 2nd year is when you are truly alone with your own thoughts. If you cloud them with new relationships I personally don't think you've done the work to get healthy. Being a widow of 4+ years I know it is tough for the other person to find things to talk about with regards to my marriage. A couple of hints…. don’t be afraid that you are going to cause pain. Usually we have thought about SO many aspects of the death that there isn’t anything you can bring up that we haven’t thought about. It makes me more uncomfortable if someone pussyfoots around the subject. As for the widower of just one year…watch out… I have other friends that are widows and have read numerous books on the subject. They call the 2nd year the lonely year. It is very true. The shock has worn off after 1 year, the loneliness sets in during the 2nd year. The 3rd year you realize your life is your own and the decisions are your own, the 4th year…yee haw! Ready to live again. I’m sure this isn’t true for everyone, but that 2nd year is when you are truly alone with your own thoughts. If you cloud them with new relationships I personally don’t think you’ve done the work to get healthy.

]]>