Dearest Readers: I need your assistance. In the next 30 days I plan on launching the first of my 13(!) books on advice for midlife dating women based on my blog postings. But I need a little help from my friends and readers. Here’s what I need: A larger readership. If you have friends who…
Month: November 2008
They aren’t called “hate handles”
Many midlife woman have bodies with a bit more to love than they did in their twenties. Some are self-conscious about their less-than-model-like shapes. I have been.
Tales of woo
I was surprised this week to hear from an out-of-the-area man who called me several times a week for a month a few months ago. We’d had a nice connection and he said he wanted to come see me soon, then he went AWOL with an occasional cryptic email. He’d told me he removed himself…
Rose-colored glasses obscure red flags
When you look through colored glass, it distorts the colors you see, especially colors in the same range. They are not as vivid as when you look through clear glass. The same is true in relationships. Rose-colored lenses diffuse red — especially red flags. You are smitten. He is so perfect for you. He is…
If his stories don’t add up, subtract yourself
When we begin to date someone, nearly always he is a stranger. Even if you meet through friends, work, class, church or other activities, you most likely barely know him. While you want to be open and trusting, you also want to be conscious of inconsistencies that point to him not being who he represents…
He asks you for money
Unfortunately, this is becoming more common. And not just with men who list themselves from Nigeria or London — hot spots for scams (Nigerian scammers claim to be from London sometimes) — but from others who represent themselves as all-American.