Archive for November, 2007

Noticing what’s positively eliminated

Friday, November 30th, 2007

In relationships — even dating relationships — you often discover behaviors in the other that drive you batty. These behaviors aren’t deal breakers, just minor annoyances. So you non-judgmentally share your irritation with your guy and ask him if he would be willing to work on reducing this. He is accommodating, apologizes for it whatever [...]

Does he know what turns you on?

Thursday, November 29th, 2007

Does the guy you’re dating know what turns you on? Or does he make assumptions based on what turns him on?
Today I received a bawdy video emailed from an old beau turned friend. It was clips of naked, buxom women playing various sports — gymnastics, calisthenics, etc. He thought it would turn me on.
I said, [...]

Being played by a pathological liar

Tuesday, November 27th, 2007

I think of myself as a good judge of character. I usually trust my gut and can often feel when something isn’t right. If something doesn’t make sense, I question it. While I generally trust people and look for the good in them, I am also skeptical. I am not easily fooled.
But he did it. [...]

What kind of tree are you?

Sunday, November 25th, 2007

Spending six days over the holiday with a two-decade-married couple gave me ample opportunity to watch their relationship up close for days on end. Usually when we visit friends or relatives we spend from several hours to a few days with them. When others are around, most of us are on our best behavior. Only [...]

The downsides of always getting your way

Friday, November 23rd, 2007

We’ve discussed how a mature, sane man generally wants to make you happy. But how can always getting what you want make you unhappy? A fellow strong woman and I were discussing this recently.
“While I appreciate that my man is interested in making me happy, sometimes it can be a weight,” she shared.
“In what way?” [...]