“I’m out of your league” sounds so snooty, snotty, and superior. You’re looking down your nose at the other, saying he isn’t good enough for you.
A potential suitor once emailed me, “You’re so far out of my league that I wouldn’t be allowed in the stadium where your league plays. I can only [...]

Rule #1 actually applies to life, not just dating. It earned its exalted status as #1 during a family reunion.
It was day two of the three-day reunion. Already those with “strong” (e.g., obnoxious) personalities were starting to get to some of us. A handful of us met for breakfast just to have some non-irritating conversation.
It [...]

A pal is having a divorce party soon when his paperwork is final. His divorce was amicable, so he would be celebrating his new-found singledom. I suggested it might be fun to turn it into a singles mingle event.
He said, “That would be boring, as I’d have a house full of guys.”
Me: “You [...]

These terms are often used interchangeably. However, I see a difference.
Assessing is when you notice things about him. He’s 6-feet tall, blue eyed, with dark curly hair. He has a little paunch, slouches, and interrupts often. He makes eye contact and speaks clearly.
Judging is when you put a value on what you see. He’s tall [...]

Sate: satisfy (a desire or an appetite) to the full; supply (someone) with as much as or more of something than is desired or can be managed.
You know not to grocery shop when you are hungry as you’ll be tempted to take home things that aren’t really good for you.
The same is true in dating.
When [...]