Archive for November, 2006

Feeling violated

Saturday, November 25th, 2006

This posting has nothing to do with dating. But it is fresh on my mind.
Yesterday, I did some errands midday for 2 hours. When I arrived home, the back door had been kicked in. I called the police and they searched the house. No one was inside.
My laptop, some cash, my wedding ring and a [...]

Are you a good verbal hugger?

Friday, November 24th, 2006

A verbal hug is a sincere acknowledgment. The usual result is that the receiver feels good. It’s similar to a physical hug, but there’s no touching — except the recipient’s heart is often touched. You embrace him with your words. We all like sincere compliments, as long as it’s not overdone.
A relationship is built upon [...]

Dating requires risk taking

Thursday, November 23rd, 2006

Many women don’t want to get back into the dating scene because they know it will require them to take some risks: being rejected, getting a broken heart, being hurt. But without risks in life, rewards are small. If you want to live completely within your comfort zone and not press your limits, you will [...]

The “Better Than Nothing” guy

Wednesday, November 22nd, 2006

In my friend Susan Page’s bestselling book, If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?: Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Love Life Forever she discusses the “Better Than Nothing” (BTN) partner. A BTN is someone you know isn’t “the one,” yet you hang onto him because you feel it’s better to have someone [...]

When do you tell your date about irritants?

Tuesday, November 21st, 2006

There seem to be several camps on this:

Immediately when the annoyance happens, even on the first date. Say something so he can modify his behavior. No matter how small the irritation, you should say something when it happens.
Not on the first date, unless the behavior is egregious (blowing his nose in the cloth napkin, walking [...]