One of the hardest parts of dating is telling your date that it isn’t a match so you don’t encourage him to pursue you.
It is easiest to do in an email, but I only recommend this method if you’ve only met once. Start with thanking him for coffee, lunch, whatever. Comment on some of his [...]

I’ve fantasized about putting together my perfect man — my Franken-boyfriend. After dating a lot of men, I’ve grown very fond of different parts of many. I’d like to build my perfect man with the beautiful green eyes of one, the height of another, one’s sense of humor, another’s deep, resonant voice, the kindness and [...]

It seems many people have difficulty with the first phone call. If you are initiating the call, you may procrastinate because you don’t know how to start.
Nowadays, men know that some women don’t want to give out their number, so they give her their number. This gives the woman more control over who they call [...]

I continue to be surprised when people don’t seem to understand that dating takes time. It takes hours to sort through potential matches, contact them, email and talk on the phone. Then there’s an hour to meet them, if just for coffee. Dinner is 2-3 hours. A hike or bike ride, movie, theater, concert, dancing, [...]

When I was first dating, I wouldn’t respond to someone if their picture wasn’t appealing, even if they sent an articulate, fun email. I also turned down any contact who I couldn’t imagine kissing, based on his picture. I didn’t meet a lot of new guys with these criteria!
Now I’ve learned that pics in online [...]