Guest post: 10 Reasons To Thank Your Bad Boyfriend

by Dating Goddess on March 12, 2010

by guest author, Regina Barreca, Ph.D.

Dear Readers: My friend Gina Barreca writes hilarious and thought-provoking books and articles. She and I thought you’d like her latest blog posting. She’d love to get your comments on this piece on her blog. I have mentioned a number of Gina’s books in past postings. Just search by “Barreca” in my search box to find them.

We’ve all had The Bad Boyfriend. He’s the one  you knew you had to leave. In order to get on with life, we need to put him in perspective. Part of that is acknowledging those things for which we should be grateful to him.
That isn’t easy to do.
I decided to help.

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“You’re more valuable than a wife”

by Dating Goddess on March 10, 2010

After several months of daily conversations and a few in-person dates, this out-of-state suitor shared his sentiment. I felt complimented, but at the same time quizzical.

I appreciated that he frequently sought and took my business counsel. But it made me think that he didn’t value a wife very highly. It stalled my desire to take our relationship to the next level. If it weren’t for my business acumen, would he respect me? Would he only engage my opinion if it were business related, and not about other aspects of our relationship?

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What’s your definition of “committed”?

by Dating Goddess on March 2, 2010

A friend told me he’s going to buy a house with “Francine,” a woman he’s been seeing for a few years.

“Great!” I said. “You haven’t cohabited with anyone for a long time, so this will be quite a change for you.”

“No. I’ll buy it with her and stay there sometimes, but I’ll keep my place.”

“Really? Why?”

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Granny panties, schoolmarm and Church Lady

by Dating Goddess on February 25, 2010

It continually amazes me to hear the comments some men make during the pre-date stage. You would think they would focus on putting their best foot forward, thinking about how they want to make a great impression.

But no.

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Haunting exes

by Dating Goddess on February 22, 2010

  • You glimpse a man who looks strikingly like a past love.
  • In front of you at Starbucks stands a guy wearing your former sweetie’s cologne.
  • The song plays on the radio that you slow-danced to with your ex, naked in front of the fire on New Year’s Eve.

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Midlife crushes

by Dating Goddess on February 16, 2010

“Crush” sounds like a school kid, doesn’t it? Remember those feelings of infatuation, exemplified by your hanging out at the crushee’s locker or outside the gym as he left practice? Or perhaps you were like me, not-so-subtly keeping score for the team on which the object of your desire played.

In high school, I gave hand-knitted scarves to my unrequited loves. Most were never worn. I baked birthday cakes for my make-believe beaus. Once, the oven rack was tilted, so the cake baked lopsided. Discovering this while removing it from the oven, I crafted a creative fix — raising the lower end with donuts secreted underneath, hidden by frosting. The recipient never mentioned the unusual composition of the cake.

At this point in your life, this seems so, well, childish, right? Crushes are for the emotionally immature, aren’t they?
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We have a winner!

by Dating Goddess on February 15, 2010

Our Valentine’s contest judges found it difficult to choose a winner because there were so many good entries. I wish I had more prizes to award! I’m sure there will be other contests in the future as I seem to now be getting a regular stream of prize offerings.

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Valentine’s Week Blog-a-Thon

by Dating Goddess on February 8, 2010

My pal and fellow blogger Ronnie Ann Ryan of “It’s Never Too Late for Love” is hosting a blog-a-thon featuring guest bloggers this week. She’s featured my posting, “Ideas for Women Who Are Sweetie-less for Valentine’s Day,” as the first for this Valentine’s week. Here’s the link. Check back every day to see what her other guests have written.

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Special Valentine’s contest

by Dating Goddess on February 7, 2010

Again several suppliers approached me with some fabulous prizes. I only have to mention their offer and they’ll provide great prizes to give one of you — but you have to enter to win!

The contest is for your best example of “This Valentine’s Day: Do This, Not That.” For example, “Do feed her fancy. Don’t decide on delivery.” My example would be “Do take her to watch her favorite team play. Don’t give her just a cardboard cutout of one of the players.” Or “Do give her special white wine glasses as that’s all she drinks. Don’t give her red wine glasses because you want the proper glass when you drink your red wine at her house.” See other examples.

What can you win?

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